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Puberty Issues

Overview

Puberty is the time of life when people develop physically and sexually so that they can have children. It is the time when male and female sex characteristics appear and when changes in the sexual organs occur.

Puberty is the entire process of changes affecting the body and its hormones that accompany sexual maturation. In general, puberty usually starts for girls between the ages of 9 and 11, and for most boys between the ages of 9½ and 13, although the exact age at which puberty starts varies widely among individuals.

Helping your child or teen handle puberty issues

Having an adolescent often brings up parents' uncomfortable memories of going through puberty themselves. Fortunately, education and support for adolescents during this period of life are becoming increasingly common. But adolescents still need parental guidance about what to expect and assurance that everyone goes through similar changes during puberty.

Here are some ways you can help your child.

  • Talk to your child before physical changes start to happen.

    Instead of overloading your child in one sitting, talk to your child over a period of a year or two about changes that are upcoming. Offer your child books about puberty that are geared toward teens, and set a time to talk about what your child learned.

  • Share some of your own teen experiences.

    Your child will know that Mom and Dad went through this time too.

  • Talk about body odor.

    Young adolescents may not be aware of developing body odor and the need for deodorants and more frequent bathing.

  • Teach your child how to care for his or her skin.

    Your child may develop pimples, whiteheads and blackheads, or acne.

  • Teach your child about the changes that occur with puberty, such as the following:
    • Girls' hips become more rounded.
    • Girls' nipples grow first and then the breasts under them.
    • Girls and boys get fine pubic and underarm hair, and then the hair becomes coarser.
    • Boys' penises and testicles grow larger.
    • Boys sometimes have wet dreams.
    • Boys sometimes have temporary breast growth during puberty.
    • Menstruation is a sign that girls can become pregnant. Girls should be instructed on how to use pads or tampons. Explain that periods may not be regular at first but they typically last 4 to 6 days and occur every 21 to 45 days in the first 2 years.
  • Show compassion.

    Let your child know that you are there to help and will not tease or ridicule.

Credits

Current as of: September 20, 2021

Author: Healthwise Staff
Medical Review:
Susan C. Kim MD - Pediatrics
Kathleen Romito MD - Family Medicine
John Pope MD - Pediatrics